of course i cannot dismiss the artistic value of "the graduate" and i could certainly comprehend its showcase of the existential anxiety for seeking an identity in the mind-numbing society which crashes individuality. so the man feels confused and dazed, certainly troubled,… More
of course i cannot dismiss the artistic value of "the graduate" and i could certainly comprehend its showcase of the existential anxiety for seeking an identity in the mind-numbing society which crashes individuality. so the man feels confused and dazed, certainly troubled, and so lost in agony that he sleeps with her girlfriend's mother, played by sexy anne bancroft whose legs are killers to prey a man into her bedroom. the whole case is apprehensible, even i am a woman. but what aggravates me is the ending where dustin hoffman evades into his girldfriend's wedding with an ardent assertation of love...the camera tends to loom upon the contorted faces of the girl's family members with an uglified malice. then the girl scurries to the man as if he's some sort of romantic hero who pulls off some grand gesture to quest for his one true love. i found that quite arbitrarily narcissistic, why wouldn't you?
it's like saying "sorry, chic. i screwed your mom, despite all the fantastic laids i've got from her, you're still my true love, and your mom is a goddamned bitch. so just run toward me, away from your evil family, build a life with me in exclusion of all the rest of your relatives even i have nothing'...however, i think it is unbelievable that the woman could embrace the man again without any burdening emotional trauma, or at least some degree of hesitation in the rite. perhaps, to me, the more authentic reality would be the woman alienates herself from the mother and never talks to the boy, seeking her possible happiess with another man whom she would never introduce to her mom. (ha) maybe also some crisis of self-confidence would haunt her for the rest of her life.
on the other hand, if the genders are reversed, you've discovered your girlfriend having numerous flings with your father who seems to be more capable than you when it comes to sexual gratification, would you forgive her and beg her to marry you on your knees??? the usual case would be the boy is still in basic terms of the father, but the woman is certainly ditched for sure as if she's just a plaything for the father and son.
(ps) RELATION OT 500 DAYS OF SUMMER
does anyone notice that dustin hoffman's "the graduate" symbolizes a turning point in this movie? the movie narrates in the outset that tom's view of love is poisoned from his misinterpretation of "the graduate," a movie he watched in full tears as kid, as a reference of tom's romanticist side. the story is told by fragmented intercutted scenes of past and present, and let's stitch the pieces together, the last date of tom and summer happens right after she watches "the graduate" with tom in some retro-theater and she was also in full tears, then she announces they should remain friends: a nicer way to say "let's split!"
love and destiny is the two words repeatedly brought in the movie, and the movie's message is those who believe in destiny and love are meant to lose the game of love, and those who don't believe it are winners. love and destiny are what "the graduate" romanticists root for. tom loses the game of love due to his "the graduate symptom" and summer's the domineering winner in the relationship. but when summer is absorbed by "the graduate symptom," she loses her "it girl mojo" and decides to get married all at a sudden. (volunteers to be the loser in the another game of love)...in the end, when tom ditches the ideas of love and destiny aside (and there're only coincidence), he wins autumn.
is that supposed to be a positive message no matter how clever and subtle it's been delivered? i do wonder.
btw, i truly think "the graduate" is full of shits. i mean the "romantic" part.