Mark Ruffalo, Laura Dern, Peter Krause

An indiscretion between two close friends tears down their respective marriages.

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55% liked it

1,563 ratings

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65% liked it

121 critics

R, 99 min.

Directed by: John Curran

Release Date: August 13, 2004

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DVD Release Date: December 14, 2004

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  • July 24, 2008
    This movie is captivating. The performances are excellent and the drama of the characters' lives is too much not to take it straight to heart
  • February 10, 2008
    It is a depressing movie about decaying marriages. Two couples who are best friends with each other find attention in the other couple's spouse.
  • December 8, 2007
    This film, like In the Bedroom in 2001, takes an Andre Dubus short story and makes it into one intense movie. The acting in this movie is outstanding, and the stakes are high in every scene. Expecting a quasi-Rom-Com, we got a Rom-Dram (thanks for that one, Sid!), but it's well w...( read more)orth the watch. The ending doesn't make a ton of sense, but as with most anti-domestic bliss movies, it really doesn't have to... these movies deal with the day-to-day, and for most of us, that means we can't just "get" closure; we just ride on.
  • August 10, 2007
    I have zero experience with marriage first hand, but these four actors made a great attempt at portraying the issues that must go on in married life. Some of the scenarios were far fetched and I'm inclined to be both fascinated/jealous of Laura Dern because she is Ben Harper's g...( read more)irlfriend/wife and I have a HUGE crush on him (sorry, had to work that into my review somehow). High caliber acting made this a decent flick but something about it made it not great... when I nail that down I will let you know.
  • March 3, 2006
    Honest.
  • November 5, 2009
    This movie shows a powerful portrait of two couples whose marriages are going to break; has an enormous power and tells some uncomfortable truths. The mood is very heavy and dense, and the presented drama is very complex. After the film it's like a kick in the stomach that stays ...( read more)there.
  • November 1, 2009
    Almost brutul, yet never relentless.
  • September 22, 2009
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    In we don't live here anymore two couples are trying to change spouses to see if that will help their miserable lives, but drama com...( read more)es about instead. These people waste time, and love on someone who cannot truly love them back. They each have beautiful children that finally in the end make them come to understand what is more important. Acting was okay but the total movie was in one word...boring !
  • March 18, 2009
    Very dark story about infidelity that's well-written and acted but like all those other movies we see at least twice a years about couples who cross the line.
  • February 25, 2009
    Casi al mismo tiempo que Closer (2004) se estrenó We don?t Live Here Anymore (2004). En general, en ambos filmes se muestra la decadencia de las relaciones sentimentales de sus personajes, y al sexo como un elemento manipulatorio, capaz de destruir a la pareja.

    Segundo largome...( read more)traje del neoyorquino John Curran (también a cargo del diseño de sonido), estamos ante una película dura, en la que incluso los niños pueden llegar a mostrar más cordura que los adultos. Los adultos serán más como adolescentes inmaduros, ocupados únicamente en satisfacer sus caprichos y deseos.
    A través de una puesta en escena limpia, el trabajo de Curran termina destacando también por una edición sencilla y funcional, así como por una impecable dirección de actores. Los personajes llegan desgastados emocionalmente al final, sin poder ser golpeados psicológicamente una vez más, dando suma importancia a las segundas oportunidades.
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Critic Reviews


August 20, 2004
Moira MacDonald, Seattle Times

[The] performances stay with you. full review

August 20, 2004
Mick LaSalle, San Francisco Chronicle

The acting is fervent, and the insights cut deep. full review

August 20, 2004
Roger Ebert, Chicago Sun-Times

Too desultory. full review

August 13, 2004
David Edelstein, Slate

Pretty potent. full review

August 13, 2004
Marcy Dermansky, About.com

Overly artful, overwrought melodrama. full review

August 12, 2004
Claudia Puig, USA Today

We Don't Live Here Anymore is a revelation. One rarely sees American-made movies that are so unafraid to explore emotional cruelty and portray the consequences without positing easy answers or attachi... full review

August 12, 2004
A.O. Scott, The New York Times

The murk and mystery of marriage, adultery and friendship have seldom been illuminated with such harsh precision. full review

August 5, 2004
Peter Travers, Rolling Stone

The film, sometimes talky and overemphatic, is also literate, erotic, brutally funny and touched by brilliance in its quartet of live-wire performances. full review

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  • WrellikW
    August 12, 2008
    It's a sad thing that they couldn't talk to each other; it would have solved everything. What's sad, it happens everyday, in every 3rd house you see.
    I liked this movie, even though it was slow.

    Take care all,
    William
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    "It is easy to be brave, from a distance." -American Indian Proverb-

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